The Love Lie
by Daniel Beadle - Monday, October 19, 2009
LOVE AS FICTION:
"...When analyzing love, we analyze a presumed aspect of the human psyche. I say human psyche, because animals do not seem to be bound by the emotion called love. Animals procreate and many care for their young. In addition, in as much as humans like to think themselves superior to animals, they are actually more inept, as they seem to have a capacity for self-annihilation. If we assume love exists for humans, then we see love as an emotion, not unlike happiness or anger. However, if we break down the emotion further, we see that love exists only as an extreme happiness, which is actually a temporary high in the brain. This high is often immortalized in works of fiction, such as movies, television, magazines, Internet, and most obvious of all, music. With love at the central core of fiction, we find that fiction takes a fleeting emotion, and builds it into something that it actually is not. Romance is derived from this point. When fiction/art imitates life, the tendency is for life to imitate art. In this sense, fictitious depictions of love serve as a propaganda system to naturalize romantic relationships. This serves to initiate relationships, which create more humans, born into cooperatives called families. However, what this creates is an entire species acting on love (the mental orgasm), which is ultimately a flimsy pretext. Regardless, if enough people believe they should think something, they will follow suit, regardless of reason. We see, therefore, that the emotion we call love is actually a fictitious concept, whereby art has exaggerated the mild buzz that precedes sexual activity..."
HUMAN NATURE AND IMPULSES THEREIN:
"...Humans are animals with the inherent need to procreate. After all, the only mark of a successful organism is its reproductive efficiency. We see humans courting others for the purpose of reproduction, which is cleverly made attractive by way of the orgasm. Therefore, when confronted by another human being of relative attractiveness, we feel compelled to open negotiations where at least one of us can use the other to achieve orgasm..."
FIRST RESPONSE TO COUPLING:
"...As humans pair themselves off for procreation, they rarely have this goal in mind. Perhaps companionship (humans despise isolation), or especially sexual appetites compel humans to initiate their relationships..."
GOALS AND INEVITABLE RELATIONSHIP TERMINATION:
"...However, what does a relationship achieve aside from possible sexual outcomes? Why initiate the relationship? Here we find the convenient use of love. Thinking that they are supposed the feel obsessed with one another, humans go with that impulse and call it ‘love.’ However, when initiating a relationship, few look to the inevitably tragic outcome that will result. Love is not actual, but a fictitious exaggeration of a temporary high. If this is the basis for a relationship, the relationship can only be temporary. If, however, the lie of love is continued indefinitely, then marriage, a legalized union for procreation purposes, is the outcome. Thusly, the propaganda supplied by the entertainment industry has created a family unit, which proves invaluable to consumer society. Of course, the spouse will invariably die off, and the widow(er) will be left alone, losing their fictitious connection, and be faced with the lie that love actually is..."
CONCEPT OF OWNERSHIP:
"...As music teaches us, relationships can take on the form of ownership, whereby a man achieves a woman as if she is game and he is a hunter. Capitalist courting techniques encourage gift giving as proof of successful providership. In addition, the concept of love being the willingness to do anything for someone perpetuates this idea of owning another individual and calling it ‘love.’"
DEFINITION OF A RELATIONSHIP:
"...However, what are the actual characteristics of a relationship? If we define it as two people who share commonalities, then what would be the difference between a relationship and friends? Thus, we turn to sex as the only quality that can hold two people together..."
IF NOT LOVE, THEN SEX:
"...As love does not exist in reality, we look to sex to explain why relationships exist..."
SEX AS A BODILY FUNCTION:
"...The act of sex is the process by which an orgasm is achieved. In this sense, sex acts are the results of bodily urges, which are relieved, and fluids transferred. This description frames sex as nothing more that a bodily function, akin to urination or bowel movements. Once the orgasm is achieved, the relationship has no more value.
Continuance of a sex-based relationship can be compared to carrying a bedpan or toilet for the purposes of relief..."
LIFE BETTER WITHOUT:
"...Without love, or at least believing in love, humans can evaluate their relationships practically. What bonds are actually shared?"
LOVELESS LIFE PERSPECTIVE:
"...Without the guilt that ‘love’ gives us, we see relationships as nothing more than temporary encounters which end as quickly as they form. Family is reduced to those who share genetic material, while friends are merely those who find their lives slightly easier to bear with your company. The lie of love has a way of blinding even the sharpest of minds. When the illusion has been stripped away, we can see the true world clearly, with all of its flaws, its foibles… and its secrets.
"Without love, all human relationships begin to fall apart."
"...When analyzing love, we analyze a presumed aspect of the human psyche. I say human psyche, because animals do not seem to be bound by the emotion called love. Animals procreate and many care for their young. In addition, in as much as humans like to think themselves superior to animals, they are actually more inept, as they seem to have a capacity for self-annihilation. If we assume love exists for humans, then we see love as an emotion, not unlike happiness or anger. However, if we break down the emotion further, we see that love exists only as an extreme happiness, which is actually a temporary high in the brain. This high is often immortalized in works of fiction, such as movies, television, magazines, Internet, and most obvious of all, music. With love at the central core of fiction, we find that fiction takes a fleeting emotion, and builds it into something that it actually is not. Romance is derived from this point. When fiction/art imitates life, the tendency is for life to imitate art. In this sense, fictitious depictions of love serve as a propaganda system to naturalize romantic relationships. This serves to initiate relationships, which create more humans, born into cooperatives called families. However, what this creates is an entire species acting on love (the mental orgasm), which is ultimately a flimsy pretext. Regardless, if enough people believe they should think something, they will follow suit, regardless of reason. We see, therefore, that the emotion we call love is actually a fictitious concept, whereby art has exaggerated the mild buzz that precedes sexual activity..."
HUMAN NATURE AND IMPULSES THEREIN:
"...Humans are animals with the inherent need to procreate. After all, the only mark of a successful organism is its reproductive efficiency. We see humans courting others for the purpose of reproduction, which is cleverly made attractive by way of the orgasm. Therefore, when confronted by another human being of relative attractiveness, we feel compelled to open negotiations where at least one of us can use the other to achieve orgasm..."
FIRST RESPONSE TO COUPLING:
"...As humans pair themselves off for procreation, they rarely have this goal in mind. Perhaps companionship (humans despise isolation), or especially sexual appetites compel humans to initiate their relationships..."
GOALS AND INEVITABLE RELATIONSHIP TERMINATION:
"...However, what does a relationship achieve aside from possible sexual outcomes? Why initiate the relationship? Here we find the convenient use of love. Thinking that they are supposed the feel obsessed with one another, humans go with that impulse and call it ‘love.’ However, when initiating a relationship, few look to the inevitably tragic outcome that will result. Love is not actual, but a fictitious exaggeration of a temporary high. If this is the basis for a relationship, the relationship can only be temporary. If, however, the lie of love is continued indefinitely, then marriage, a legalized union for procreation purposes, is the outcome. Thusly, the propaganda supplied by the entertainment industry has created a family unit, which proves invaluable to consumer society. Of course, the spouse will invariably die off, and the widow(er) will be left alone, losing their fictitious connection, and be faced with the lie that love actually is..."
CONCEPT OF OWNERSHIP:
"...As music teaches us, relationships can take on the form of ownership, whereby a man achieves a woman as if she is game and he is a hunter. Capitalist courting techniques encourage gift giving as proof of successful providership. In addition, the concept of love being the willingness to do anything for someone perpetuates this idea of owning another individual and calling it ‘love.’"
DEFINITION OF A RELATIONSHIP:
"...However, what are the actual characteristics of a relationship? If we define it as two people who share commonalities, then what would be the difference between a relationship and friends? Thus, we turn to sex as the only quality that can hold two people together..."
IF NOT LOVE, THEN SEX:
"...As love does not exist in reality, we look to sex to explain why relationships exist..."
SEX AS A BODILY FUNCTION:
"...The act of sex is the process by which an orgasm is achieved. In this sense, sex acts are the results of bodily urges, which are relieved, and fluids transferred. This description frames sex as nothing more that a bodily function, akin to urination or bowel movements. Once the orgasm is achieved, the relationship has no more value.
Continuance of a sex-based relationship can be compared to carrying a bedpan or toilet for the purposes of relief..."
LIFE BETTER WITHOUT:
"...Without love, or at least believing in love, humans can evaluate their relationships practically. What bonds are actually shared?"
LOVELESS LIFE PERSPECTIVE:
"...Without the guilt that ‘love’ gives us, we see relationships as nothing more than temporary encounters which end as quickly as they form. Family is reduced to those who share genetic material, while friends are merely those who find their lives slightly easier to bear with your company. The lie of love has a way of blinding even the sharpest of minds. When the illusion has been stripped away, we can see the true world clearly, with all of its flaws, its foibles… and its secrets.
"Without love, all human relationships begin to fall apart."
“What about love? Overrated. Biochemically no different than eating large quantities of chocolate.”—John Milton
